If you’ve moved out and live on your own in a hostel – you probably know what I’m talking about. Living on your own and away from family comes with it’s own pros and cons. I moved out to live in a hostel about seven weeks ago, and this is what I’ve realised so far:
1. Freedom is never underrated
Freedom. Such a sweet, sweet word. After 18 years of living under my parents’ roof and living by their rules and the ‘restrictions’ that came with – living on my own was absolutely delightful. Want to call a bucket of ice-cream dinner? No one’s going to stop you. Baths at 3 AM because that’s when the bathrooms manage to be both empty and clean? Why not?
2. Everyone is different
Considering I have two roommates and we’ve been ‘forced’ to spend extended periods of time together, I can’t deny that it hasn’t been a learning experience. At home it was always the same set of morals and the same kind of culture, yet to live with these once-strangers was eye-opening. For one, learning that apparently some people really don’t like hugs was almost mindblowing.
Sometimes Usually, you’re going to have to compromise
As a continuation to #2, different people come with a lot of different habits and to maintain peace in the new home, all must learn to compromise. My roommates and I have somehow managed to build our routines and habits around each other’s pet peeves which really has helped maintain the calm, so far.
4. Waking up for 8:30AM class is a feat accomplished by a select few
And obviously, we are all greatly indebted to them for waking us up in the mornings, without fail (well, almost). I have friends who wake up and then call up six other people to wake them up in time for class.
5. Breakfast might not be the most important meal of the day
After moving to hostel, I’ve probably only had breakfast around five times. But hey, I’m still alive and kicking so maybe they’re all wrong. Or maybe I’m just sick and slowly getting weaker day by day, which will lead to a horrific death some day, who knows?
6. Your friends are important – keep them close
You’re all alone in the big bad world, maybe in a city you’re not familiar with where you have literally no family.
In situations like these, your friends are the closest you’ll have to family. You spend almost all your time with them, be it at meals, in class or just hanging around doing nothing in the common rooms. These people will shape the next four years of your life so choose wisely and keep them close.
7. Home is where the heart is
You’re going to miss home a lot on some days, and on days like these don’t forget to call and let your family know you love them. They miss you too- it’s never easy letting your child leave home. Your friends will support you.
And when you finally do go back home, it tends to be a bit bittersweet. You’re going to miss college, your friends and the freedom, but at the same time –
There’s no place like home.